Weak Material

“And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock.

And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand:

And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it.” Matthew 7: 25-27

A few weeks ago, I listened as a woman shared that she had wanted these verses read at her wedding. Her hearts desire was that she and her husband build upon a strong foundation so that when the troubles that life offered raged against their marriage, they would be able to withstand. She cried and shared that she felt they had. She stated that she thought she had done everything right. Even still, her marriage failed. The lady with whom the woman was sharing with stated something that truly caught my attention. She said, “You can build on the most solid of foundations, but if the material you are using is weak, the building will eventually crumble.” The woman began to cry. She was able to reveal deceptions, both from her and her husband, that were revealed later in their marriage. They hadn’t been honest from the beginning. They overlooked certain area’s that they possibly felt weren’t important at the time. The materials that they used to build the marriage was weak. So eventually, the marriage crumbled and great was the fall of it.

A friend of mine is getting married. I see such a light in her eyes. The love she has for her fiance is apparent and I feel that it is beautiful. I remember the new feelings of love. I remember the great expectations of what love will be like….and surely every new bride feels her love will be different from all the others before her. If not different…just as special and just as real. I had the opportunity to share with her the other day. I told her that it isn’t the man or the woman that makes a marriage special. I feel a marriage is only special if they allow God to be the center of their relationship. Undeniable, every relationship will eventually struggle. The reality is that the new does wear off. But it’s a commitment that has been made to come together during these times that will make the difference. It’s the material that is used to build a relationship. Honesty…love…understanding….all the necessities that can’t be neglected. Neglected area’s make for area’s of weakness that left unattended, will eventually break.

A few individuals have shared the struggles that they are having in their marriage. The materials they used had been weak. Some feel they are ready to give in and divorce. This is acceptable in today’s society. I recently read that many feel marriage is a dying institution and should no longer be recognized. I say that “what God has joined together, let no part asunder.” The beauty about building on a solid foundation is that you are able to securely tear down a weak building and build a strong replacement…a building redesigned and updated according to the desires of your heart. But as any building…it requires the proper maintenance. Never fail to check your relationship and replace that which is broken.

Guard your marriage. Place that which is precious inside and lock the door….and then be careful who you give a spare key to.

Author: Britney Wilkes

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